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September 24, 2009

7 Quick And Easy Dating Tips For Men

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Since the new millennium the dating world has gotten much more challenging for single men. Women are pickier than they’ve ever been before. With the Internet it has gotten easier for people to cheat and hide their tracks. It’s a jungle out there. Yet time and time again men continue to make the same mistakes. These 7 quick and easy dating tips for men will make your dating life a lot less frustrating.

1. Master The Art Of Qualifying – When most men meet a woman they place too much emphasis on her beauty. The don’t make the genuine effort of trying to build rapport. This usually leads to horrible pick up lines and lame routines. Anytime you approach and talk to a woman, if you can communicate to her indirectly that you are the one qualifying her, then it makes you more attractive. Don’t waste your time on women that don’t fit your criteria. No matter how beautiful they are.

2. Don’t Engage In A One-Way Conversation – Another one of my dating tips for men that you can take to the bank is when you talk to a woman or a group of women is to not engage in a one way conversation. Most men think they have to entertain women in order to build attraction, but that is a myth. A healthy and balanced woman wants an engaging interaction. If you talk to a woman and she is not holding her end of the conversation, such as giving you one word answers, it’s probably time to move on.

3. Ask With Confidence – When you’re ready to ask a woman for her phone number, you should make sure that you ask with confidence. If you look her in the eye and ask with a tone of EXPECTATION in your voice, then she’ll have no choice but to give you her contact information. Anytime you ask for something, ask with confidence.

4. It’s Not Personal – A major reason why men do not approach women is because they fear rejection. They think if she says “no” or “I’m not interested” that it is a reflection on them and who they are. Nothing could be further from the truth. “It’s seldom ever personal. Most men don’t realize that roughly out of every 10 women they meet, only 2 of them are actually at that point in their life where they are ready to meet someone new,” says dating coach Rod Cortez. “Women have their own lives. They might be busy with their career, schooling, or they might be involved with someone else. For whatever ever reason they are not ready to meet someone new. Besides, if even she is not interested why would anyone want to be with someone that doesn’t want to be with them?”

5. Master The Art Of Leading – Women expect men to lead. If you habitually ask women “well, what do you want to do?” you’ll soon find yourself single again. A great way to lead is to give a woman 2 or 3 alternatives before you make plans and if she says “you pick one”, then don’t hesitate, just pick it. You should lead when dating and you should lead in the bedroom. You must have sensory acuity around this and that only comes with practice.

6. Mastering Conversation Skills – A lot of men say “I don’t know what to say”. Since social skills are skills that any man can learn you need to hone them. When I hear a man say that, I know that he has not practiced enough. The quick solution is to begin talking to everyone you meet. You should talk to your professor after class. Talk to the person sitting next to you at the bar. You should engage in conversations with the waiter, the hostess, the cashier, the valet, and everyone you come in contact with. This includes men and women. This is one of my many dating tips that have proven themselves in the field over and over again.

7. Never Seek Her Approval – In the context of meeting and dating women as a single man, you should never seek a woman’s approval because it should come naturally. This means you shouldn’t buy a stranger a drink. You should never try and impress her with your job, your car, or how much money you spend. I think Mindy, a 23 year old account executive said it best, “I want a nice guy with an edge.”

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September 23, 2009

Dating Tips, What is the One Thing Woman Hate about Men?

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I asked my women friends this question the other day about what things they hate about men and for some dating tips and I was surprised about the response. I assumed lack of money would be one issue women hate. Another issue I felt could be important would be a lack of listening skills. I expected that most women would find most men lack the ability to have a deep emotional connection. I also expected most women would like great sex.

To my surprise I found that most women hated wussy men. They used different words for this. They used words like clingy and needy and a mums boy. It seems most women do not want to be a mum to their man.

Why do men become very needy? I have been reflecting on this and I feel it comes back to how we related to our mums. Did the man feel totally loved by their mum? Just about any man and myself would say that that their mum did her best but she did not love them unconditionally. So the boy feels that he was not loved on some level when he was growing up.

So when the boy is grown up he has a need for love. He feels that his women can fulfill this need of love that he did not receive from his mum. He becomes needy around women. His happiness depends on a woman. He tries to please his women by gifts, flowers and expensive restaurants. He puts up with her flaking out on dates and her over critical behavior. He is NICE. He is far too NICE.

Women hate this!

Have you ever noticed that some very attractive women are not interested in nice man but are attracted to Bad Boys? Do you have attractive women friends that just want to be friends with you? Have you been told that you are nice but a woman just wants to be friends with you?

If so, I feel you could be wussy on some level. Another sign is a fear of rejection from women. If your happiness is dependent on your partner you will fear loosing her a lot. You need her to be happy so you are dependent on her.

I have observed that women are very sensitive to picking up on needy men. Perhaps it is the body language that a needy man uses. I feel that it is also an energy thing that women can feel. I feel women really want a challenge and not a wuss. They love a very confident, sexy man that knows he can attract any women with no effort

For myself to grow out of being a wuss, I had to learn to love the good, the not so good and myself. When I did this I felt a lot more self-love to myself. I became less needy around women and I found I attracted a much more feminine, sexy women as a result. I hope you enjoyed this dating tip for men.

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Maurice Tate is a qualified sexologist trained at the Advanced Institute of Sexology. Visit his Dating Tips site and learn Free Dating Tips

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September 22, 2009

Attention Singles! Essential Dating Tips About Setting Boundaries

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If your life is filled with more of what you don’t want and not enough of what you do want, it’s time to set your boundaries.
Setting and keeping your boundaries and honoring the boundaries of others are among the most challenging and confusing behaviors in relationships. Boundaries are innate and natural to everyone. Each of you has your own internal indicator of when a boundary is being violated. A boundary, when crossed by others, will create intense feelings of anger, hurt or outrage inside you.

WHAT ARE BOUNDARIES?

Boundaries define a person’s sense of self (i.e., who he or she is as an individual). As a single man or woman in the dating world, setting boundaries makes others feel safe around you and allows you to feel safe in your environment; no matter where you decide to go. It is a way to exhibit self-respect, thereby increasing the respect shown to you by others.
Boundaries…

  • Help other people know how to treat you
  • Define your sense of self
  • Delineate how much you have to give of time, money or energy
  • Are dividing lines between you and everyone else that represents both physical and emotional limits others may not violate
  • Separate your needs, wants, desires, thoughts and feelings from those of other people

WHY ARE BOUNDARIES IMPORTANT WHEN YOU’RE SINGLE?

Each of us experiences our reality in four ways:

  • Body – what we look like
  • Thinking – how we give meaning to incoming data
  • Feelings – our emotional response
  • Behavior – what we do or don’t do

When you’re single and meeting lots of new men and women it is essential to pay attention to your actions and reactions and your interactions with others.
Intact boundaries give you a measured protection to your body, thinking, feelings and behaviors as you evaluate and assess the words and actions of other people in your life. You filter your experiences through your cognitive mind and your feelings.

Through the use of your boundaries you determine which words and actions you will accept and which you will block when they are unacceptable.

We set boundaries to protect our body, thinking, feelings and behavior.
Again, when you’re single, dating and meeting lots of new people, being willing and able to set and maintain your boundaries is essential to your personal safety – physically, mentality and emotionally.

If you are not certain about the behaviors of others that are acceptable and unacceptable to you, then how will you be able to (1) know that you are not being treated with kindness and respect; and (2) how will you say “no” to the bad behaviors that put you at risk, physically, mentally and/or emotionally?

We all know single men and women who repeatedly give people they date the benefit of the doubt; or make excuses for bad behavior over and over again. When you set and keep your boundaries and honor the boundaries of others you will be proactive; able to act on your own behalf; say your real “yes” and your real “no” with clarity and confidence; and keep yourself safe!

  • What are your boundaries?
  • Where do you draw the line?
  • How do you react when someone sets a boundary and asks you to honor it?

Setting and maintaining boundaries is a skill that you can learn; a skill that will feel more and more comfortable the more you put these behaviors in action; and a skill that, as a single person, you will come to depend on to help you sort all the experiences that you will have with the new people you are meeting.

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

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Jackie Black, Ph.D., dubbed the Love and Relationship Doctor by Cosmo U.K., knows that “Love is never enough!” Dr. Jackie is the principal of the www.IdealMatchCoachingClub.com, serving singles who are tired of dating in the same old way; and ready to learn and practice essential relationship success skills.

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September 21, 2009

Dating Tips For Single Mums

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Being a single mum doesn’t mean that you have devoted your entire life in babysitting. You have all the rights to go for a date and enjoy your life to the fullest…but remember too, the game of dating might not be that easy for you, because your children have become an intrinsic part of your life. Nevertheless, you are dying to get a man who can bring all the smiles in your life back and we assure you that there are lots of men who won’t run away after hearing about your baggage (Kids!). Here, our dating tips can prove to be really effective for you. So, let’s share some essential tips with you.

Make use of the Internet. Log into any dating site and chat to your heart’s content. Then, invite someone who has given you the most amazing chatting time.

Be clear whether you want a long-term relationship with him or a short term one.

Set up your date at a popular public place. Don’t give away your home address and phone number easily. Once the person you want to date succeeds in winning your trust, you can disclose your phone number, but make your home address known only after going out for a couple of dates.

Don’t forget to tell someone what place you have chosen for your date.

Try to observe all the movements and behavior of your date attentively. If you smell something fishy about him, just move away from the place as quickly as possible.

Make your priorities clear. Emphasize on your single-mum status and ask him clearly whether he is OK with it.

Request your friends to make calls while you are on a date. The reason behind this arrangement is if, somehow, your date turns out to be your object of irritation, then you can make certain excuses like ‘my babysitter has given the call and I have to rush back to home to attend my kid immediately.

Don’t ever let such guilty feelings come in your mind that you are doing anything wrong by going for a date, leaving your child at home. Looking for a date does not indicate that you are neglecting your kid. Keep in mind that you have the power of being a great lover and a doting mother at the same time.

Tell yourself that you are on a search for a responsible and loving father for your son, and not just a bed partner for you.

Boost up your confidence level and brush up your communication skills.

‘Can he be the ideal father to my daughters’? Try to make it out from the behavioral traits of your date.

Remember, being a mum doesn’t mean that you are going to talk about your children at every possible instance. Bring references of your little darling occasionally, but not every now and then. Unless, your date may run off!

Don’t get dressed up in a flashy outfit. Putting on too much make up is not at all desirable. But, that doesn’t mean you end up looking like a nun. Be yourself and try to create a balance between the looks of a dutiful mom and a single woman on a search for her soulmate.

Instead of focusing on your motherhood constantly, talk about your dreams and hobbies. Ask him about the same things.

Let your son/daughter know that you will be out for a date in the evening. Make them understand that you are a woman first, then a mother. But, all these necessary talking must be done in a proper and affectionate manner. Ask their reactions and opinions. Give them some time to think over the fact that their mum has a separate identity of her own and she is trying her best to create equilibrium between her single parenthood, work and love life.

Make your dating plans after hearing your child’s reactions. Be considerate enough towards them and make sure that they are absolutely comfortable with your idea of dating again. Never ever generate pressure on their young minds. Make them understand your situation slowly and always be your loving best. Give them some time to come in terms with your state of affairs.

Don’t date just for the sake of it and just to forget your traumatic past experiences. Never rush to any conclusion or take an important decision regarding your date hastily.

Never become afraid of failures, always remember that you can have better luck next time.

Request your son to behave well when you bring your date home for meeting him.

Dating a single man with a kid has its own advantages. Let your children mix among themselves. Try to notice whether he is showering the same love and affection on your son as he is doing on his own daughter.

Try to notice whether he has formed an emotional attachment with your child or he is just pretending to be a great father just for getting you in his bed.

Try to learn from your past mistakes and also bear in mind that same rules cannot be applied in every relationships.

So, ready to take the plunge? Wishing you all the best…

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Adam Singer works with communities for single parent dating events and provides some easy ways to meet single women online.

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September 20, 2009

Few Dating Tips for Teens

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There are many spoken and unspoken values regarding the topic of teen dating. Even after adequate time spent in learning to know each other quite well over the phone or net, the date would be a most anxious day for the teenager. There are lots of do’s and don’ts specified for the teens who wish to date.

Adolescence is a phase of life during which there is lots of confusion prevailing in most aspects of life. Good friendship and choosing a person to whom the teenager can confide in personally is most helpful during these troubled years. Dating during the teenage years has a lot to do with the future course of ones of life. A good date at this phase of life can either build up the relationship or ruin it.

What kind of girl should a boy date, how should he ask her out, how should he say bye after the date is over? All these are some of the simple questions that run around in the mind of a teenaged boy who wishes to date.

Going on a date with a girl just on the basis of looks may become very boring if she isn’t fun-loving at the same time. A teenaged boy needs to be straightforward and should not expect too much from a single date. It is essential that the teenagers stick to their natural selves instead of putting up with a new face. The basic etiquette of good behavior is essential for the date. Meeting the date in a safe, public location where there are people all around is the best. Also it is best to make sure the family members or a friend knows whom, when and where the teenager is going to date. Pushing the date to meet at a precise time and place will set up bad thoughts into the mind of the date. There has to be compromise on meeting place between the dates. Deciding on a place for both the teenagers would be difficult; their minds would be so much lost in thoughts about the future. Typically, a coffee shop or a restaurant would be the best places start dating.

Guidance either by the parents or well-wishers in choosing a date, or while on a date is a welcome step in building relationships for the long run. The necessary precautions taken to avoid making the date go sour should not be overlooked.

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Ivan Bruno is experience in online dating world for almost 7 years and recommended free online dating services at www.e-DatingZone.com

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